A CHILD LEARNS BEST FROM ONE HE LOVES
If we look back on our childhood, we will remember the teachers from whom we learned the most. These are probably the personalities who left a mark in our memory with their positivity and warmth. All of us are teachers with whom a child grows - parents, educators and teachers, and this role does not only include upbringing and education. Modern psychology brings new conclusions about the factors that determine a person's life path and places the influence of the environment in which a child grows up above the genetic inheritance and the constitution adopted at birth. This increases the responsibility that we who raise children bear, and work on ourselves is made inevitable. We should be aware that we leave behind traces in space and on people, both good and bright, as well as bad, dark ones. That's why it's important to work on your own thoughts and feelings. People are constantly exchanging these vibrations with each other. Remember how you feel after spending some time with a sad or angry person. All the negativity has been imprinted on you, you feel bad, or you have even transferred it to the physical level and you feel nauseous, headache or similar.
We should ask ourselves what kind of vibrations we expose the child to during the day. When he stays in an environment full of love, understanding, attention and joy, he accumulates and radiates the same. And the opposite. Knowing this, imagine how important it is to be careful in the profession of educators, teachers and teachers. When you feel sick, nervous or in a bad mood, do not touch others, especially children. If you do not succeed in overcoming your negative states with willpower, it is fairer to turn away. As long as we do not become aware of our weaknesses and work on them, we are in danger of sending them to the child, and our words will be powerful and beneficial only when we have mastered our thoughts and feelings. Before we give ourselves the right to educate others, we must become aware of the motive that led us to dedicate ourselves to the teaching profession. A teacher, like a doctor, whose motive is ego support or money, leaves behind bad results that, according to the laws of nature, return to him like a boomerang throughout life. The strongest motive must be love for the role in which we place ourselves.
Being a good pedagogue means, first of all, to recognize what is happening in the head and heart of the child. Only when we manage to recognize the child's soul will we be able to see the preciousness of his being, which is above any situation, external appearance, upbringing, education and material status. The established criteria for justice can lead us into doubts and false solutions for some situations. A way out of the situation is sought above justice, in the principles of kindness and generosity. Try to respond to a well-deserved child's punishment with generosity instead of a grade, reprimand or sanction, and you will be convinced of the immediate effect. By repeating this system, you establish a positive way of behavior in the child and build valuable qualities for him by your example. Don't scold your child when you are angry because you are sending a message of hate instead of justice. When you decide to reprimand, take care of your look because what the child reads in it is stronger than words and slaps. Control your thoughts and feelings because only then will your words be beneficial.
Criticisms and reproaches directed at the moment of one's own disorder have nothing to do with the child's behavior, but with our personal dissatisfaction or anger. Revenge for children's behavior is a prehistoric method that does not bring a solution but reinforces negativity. We can solve every problem permanently only with kindness and love. There is no other way, however effective criticism and punishment may seem to us. Different situations and different children look for different keys to communication, but there is one universal one, which opens all doors, and that is love and a sincere smile.
When teaching others, we must not immerse ourselves in the role of an educator and forget that, first of all, we are students ourselves and that only through constant work on ourselves do we acquire the divine right to perform this lofty duty.
Olivera Sekulovski